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Thursday, September 30, 2010

thugs in the night

Heard on the news this morning that there have been a rash (a rash?  exactly what is a rash?  what number of a thing do you have to get to before it can officially be a rash?) of muggings or beatings or robberies - I guess they're all muggings - in this normally safe part of town.  These attacks didn't happen in dark alleyways or unlit street corners.  They happened out in the open, albeit at night, in heavy-traffic areas.  One in particular that caught my attention was the robbery of a doctor at the corner of Michigan Ave and Superior.  That is a corner I know well, and in fact, walked through just this weekend with Lacy and friends.

One thing that I love about my neighborhood among the highscrapers is that I have always felt safe.  I can't say that I'd go strolling at 2a.m. but generally, in the daytime, and even early evening, I feel perfectly safe.  There is a lot of traffic at all times, there are very few unseemly characters lurking about, and there are always people walking within shouting distance.

It's a part of town that is in town without actually being in the concrete jungle itself, so to speak.  Four blocks to the south is the river, and on the other side of that is the real commercial district; where executives execute during the weekday, where the buildings are less residential and more financial, where there's a Starbucks literally on every corner rather than every third corner.  It's a part of town that is full of condos and apartments and restaurants and hotels and tourists.  And it's the part that is probably the safest area of the "downtown" area.

I hate that recent events have taken some of that away, and I pray that it's a fluke, a coincidence that a "rash" of these events happened within a few days of each other.  I hope that it does not signal the end of one of the few safe havens in this town.  Still, for now, I guess I have to be more careful about going out after dark, and more cautious even in the daylight.  I do love this city, and still feel it's one of the cleanest and safest I've ever been in.  I still have faith that it will stay that way.

Maybe they'll put more of those cute Segway cops patrolling around here.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

i've learned

If you're going to drive in Chicago on a Monday night when the Bears are playing at home, there's no sense in being in a hurry.
When the sky is clear and the sun has just set, the orange and peach and cream and blue is the same here as in Alabama.
Sharing a few days in my world with people I love and am familiar with leaves a lingering level of comfort that keeps me warm and safe.
It's not so much that I'm more adaptable than I expected, it's that anyone comfortable with themselves can adapt more easily.
The antenna lights on the Sears/Willis tower (or just "the tower") can cause support for most anything just by changing color.
You need good brakes and a horn to drive around here.
It's hard to be homesick for a place when you no longer have a home there.
It's easy to be homesick for people and events regardless of where you are.
Lacy makes a mean chocolate martini.
312 is an area code, not a number.
ZoCAlo is pronounced ZOcalo.
People over 30 are more friendly than people in their 20's.  At least to older people.
You can always find something you can't live without at Marshall's.
Joy can come from the most unexpected places at the most unexpected times.
There is such a thing as a "benign tremor".  Yes, tremor.
The smell of the chocolate factory across the river is exactly like the chocolate gravy my mother used to make.
When they say it's the first day of Autumn, in some parts of the world, it actually feels like it.

And, that....it's an effect of growing up in a small town that when you walk outdoors in the afternoon and the air has a certain coolness, freshness, and the shadows are long, you feel like you're supposed to be headed to a football game.  I will forever be ingrained with that feeling.  It takes me back to the excitement of putting on the band or cheerleader uniform and heading to the high school field where the fans are pouring in and the popcorn is popping in the concession stand and you know the hot chocolate is so hot it will slosh and burn your hand and the majorettes sparkle and the shoulder pads smash together with that familiar clack and for a couple of hours, you're in a different world.  I can't walk outside on those certain clear Autumn afternoons without being transported to that world.


 

Saturday, September 18, 2010

g'mama

Seth and Christine came to visit last weekend.  It was the first time Tine had been to Chicago other than flying through on her way to some other place.  From O'Hare it's not easy to get a feel for the city other than the crowd of tourists and how far you can walk and still be in the same place.

While they were here we had a great time - it rained a little Saturday morning (which didn't dampen the bacon waffle), but by mid-afternoon, the sun was out and we were at Oktoberfest in Lincoln Square.  Tine felt right at home and was thrilled to find traditional German food like her mom makes.  We got little German flags and watched the parade of German-Americans and local school marching bands.  Mayor Daley, who had just that week announced his retirement, was on hand.  It was a small, but friendly, festival.

On our way back to the city, we stopped off in Lincoln Park and walked to the Zoo, which was another thing that Tine wanted to see.  It was late, so some of the indoor facilities were closing, but luckily the animals had moved outdoors to enjoy the coolish weather.  We got a good view of the lions, and the female put on a show by coming to the edge of their enclosure and stalking back and forth while letting out an occasional low growl.  It was as though she was posing for the photographers in the group of onlookers.

The apes were fun as usual, and the lone seal was huge and sleek, and the zebra went into hiding just as we walked up.  I think we got the most fun, however, from watching the polar bear.  He would swim 'round and 'round in his pond, gliding along and occasionally kicking off the wall with his huge paw.  Obviously a ham, he swam straight up to the glass viewing window below the surface of the water, and pressed his nose right up to the glass as if for pictures.  Then he would turn, kick off, and circle back to face the glass again.  I half expected to see him climb out and open a bottle of Coke.

Leaving Lincoln Park, we headed back to the house to clean up for dinner.  I didn't tell them where we were going, but walked them to the end of the block and back to a restaurant right next door to my building.  Blue 13 was all it was cracked up to be - small and funky, rock music playing but not too loud, tatoo'd staff completely attentive and knowledgeable, and divine fare.  I've never seen a pork chop that big, or tasted one that melted in your mouth like a kobe filet.  Tine's quail was very slightly gamey and very flavorable, and my steak medallions were tender and tasty.  Dessert was heavenly.

Being stuffed and happy, we walked it off at Navy Pier, taking in the carnival atmosphere then cabbing it back to the house.  Sunday was tourist day.  I drove them around Oak Park looking at the beautiful old houses and quaint shops, then headed back to town to do the tower.  Luckily it was a beautifully clear day and the line was short.  I still couldn't make my feet take me into the glass observation boxes, though.  My stomach turns upside down just thinking about it.  Seth would live there, I think, but Christine was more like me.  She did close her eyes and let Seth pull her out for a picture.  You can see the hint of absolute fear in her eyes in the souvenir pic.

From there, we went to Buckingham Fountain at Grant Park which is magnificent, and over to the "bean" and Crown Fountain with the faces that spit on you, where we soaked our tired tooties for a bit.  Off to Lou Malnati's for pizza, and home to relax and catch the final episode of True Blood.  All in all a fun and packed weekend before I dropped them off at Midway early, early Monday morning.

Oh yes - - - and they brought me a present.  A huge surprise in a tiny package.  The gift that keeps on and on and on giving.  It was also very fitting, since Sunday was Grandparent's Day.  How coincidental was that, given that the trip had been planned since way before they knew they were with grandchild?  Not to mention that the due date is my father's birthday, although it's not a Friday the 13th like his.  I warned both them and Lacy/Jeff that they were not allowed to conceive before I was back in Alabama, or at least on my way.  Guess that's what I get for trying to control nature.  So I'm going to be a grandma, or as my friend Marsha (who's daughter-in-law is pregnant with twins) has come up with, g'mama.  I guess I'm g'mamalynn, since mamalynn is how many of my "adopted" children back home refer to me.

Am I surprised?  Yes!  Am I thrilled?  Hesitantly.  I think it's normal to be concerned and nervous when your children take any big step - moving out on their own, marriage, house, children.  You just want everything to be okay, and for them to handle it well - or at least better than you feel you did.  Tine is the same age as I was when Seth was born, and she is much more worldly and secure than I was.  Seth is older than his dad was, and is a little more grounded - he has a real job, and is in college, and although he still has a lot of maturing to do in some ways, I think he'll be okay.  This boy who has never taken to children much reminds me of myself in that regard - and once he takes that tiny life in his hands, he'll know what it is to love beyond bounds, more than he ever thought possible.

My life as a young mother was spent in turmoil much of the time, alone much of the time, and lost much of the time.  And somehow we all survived.  My two kids managed to grow into happy adults with full lives of their own, and that which literally did not kill me seemed to make me stronger.  My hope and dream for my first grandchild is that he or she (it's a girl, I just know it) has a full life of love and wonderful experiences, even if he/she doesn't have the benefit of growing up in a little rickety farm house in nowhere Alabama without benefit of air conditioning or carpeted floors or central heat or plentiful anything except pecans and adventures.  I'm sure that  his/her life will be almost as rich regardless.  And I know that he/she will have no shortage of love.  And that I will definitely be in Alabama next April to be among the welcoming committee.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

back to school

Its easy to think of Chicago as a safe, friendly city.  That is until you starting watching the local news.  I do feel safe in my neighborhood, and for the most part, around the downtown area in general.  I feel safe driving to work, even though I usually travel on the fringe of a less than desirable neighborhood.  I don't generally think about safety or violence, but I have to admit, wherever I am in this city, it is somewhere in the back of my mind.

The first time I ever came to Chicago was when I worked for Brach & Brock Candy Company.  I started working with Brock Candy Co., and small family-owned company with a long history in the Chattanooga area.  Two months afterward, the announcement was made that the Brock family had sold out to the much larger E.J. Brach company out of Chicago.  The decision by the new company to move their corporate headquarters from Chicago to Chattanooga was a bit of a shock to everyone.

So the first of my several trips to Chicago to facilitate the transfer of knowledge and management was due to this change.  I remember clearly the briefing I received prior to the trip; put my purse in the trunk of the rental car, keep doors locked at all times, don't roll the window down for anything or anyone.  The instructions were due primarily to a recent drive-by shooting at the Brach plant where the corporate headquarters were also housed.  But also because the neighborhood - on Cicero Ave - was like a dark alley you just know you don't want to be in after dark.

After this and the many follow-up trips, I shouldn't be surprised at the actuality of the risks of living here.  It's just so easy to forget...until you're reminded.  School started this week in the city of Chicago.  The first fact that got my attention is that there are 425,000 students in the city school system  That's something like 100k more than people in all of the Huntsville metro area.  Not students....PEOPLE.  That brings some amount of brevity to the more negative statistics, but it's still tough to hear that over 30 kids were shot and killed in Chicago high schools in the 2009 school year.

I haven't been able to pin down the number of total shootings, but just think about the subject at it's simplest form - - - there are kids with access to guns in the city schools.  How you aren't able to control, or crack down on, guns at school is just beyond me.  Understanding that there's no budget to put scanners in every school, I still am in awe of the possibility of guns in schools being just a fact of live.

Only a few days into the 2010-2011 school year, the count is 1.  One teenage boy killed.  One teacher stabbed.  The first week of school.  Can you just imagine how difficult it must be to go to school every day knowing your well-being is not much different than if you were walking into battle in Afganistan?  Would you not just want to pull the plug at the first opportunity?  No wonder drop-out numbers are high, and unemployment and welfare recipients are high.  Can't get far without a high school degree, but how far can you get going to battle empty handed?

It's not just in schools, it's not just South Side or near West, it's not just one race or another.  But the victim and perpetrator are almost certainly black and from south of the city proper.  Police here met with leaders of known gangs to try and encourage peace; they caught a lot of backlash for the meeting.  I understand that it seems an oxymoron to meet with gang leaders, but maybe that's a way to get the message to the gang members.  If they don't control, they will be the ones to pay.

I keep going back, though to how it feels to be faced with this danger every day of your life.  How much courage it must take to play jump rope in your front yard (where a young girl lost her life recently).  How difficult it would be to break the silence and rat the assailants out at the risk of your own life.  It's hard enough to consider how, at any time and place on any day in a city like this, you could be the one caught in the crossfire.  Even downtown, in a good neighborhood, surrounded by good people, or driving to work through good neighborhoods, or riding the L any place in town.  Tragedy, violence, or mishaps can hit no matter where you are, but when the odds are a good bit higher, maybe we just need to be a little more cautious and aware.  Hard to do when you're caught up in the magnificence of all that surrounds you, so the question remains - do I avoid the magnificence because of fear, or do I embrace it in spite of?  Can't live much of a life avoiding the hard stuff, and I like to think that is how students are able to continue going to school every day.  Hopefully it's a quality that is carried with them through the rest of their lives, as long as they're able to survive past Senior year.

Monday, September 6, 2010

weagle weagle

So football season is upon us.  One of my favorite times of the year, even during a less-than-stellar season for the Auburn Tigers.  It's one of the many things about Fall that gets the blood pumping and has you feeling that something great is just around the corner.  I guess the start of any season is like that - Spring is about life renewed and fickle weather, Summer about being outdoors and enjoying the sun, Fall is beautiful colors and brilliant skies and the clash of shoulder pads; crisp air and out come the sweaters.  Winter is time for indoors and quiet reflection, catching up on hobbies, and practicing patience as you wait for Spring.

Shortly after moving from Alabama, it occurred to me that I would not be able to watch Auburn football every weekend here as I'm accustomed to.  Hopefully, I thought, I'll be able to access the games online through ESPN, or there will be a package available through Direct TV.  As September got closer, I started searching for venues that would carry at least most of the games, and I happened upon the Chicago Auburn Club.  Hallelujah.  My peeps.

I've mentioned the CAC before - I joined a group of members at the White Sox game last week to witness former Auburn football player and baseball great, Frank Thomas, have his number retired.  It was a proud and touching moment, especially to see him in his Auburn uniform on the big screen as they "slide-show'd" his baseball life.  And to share a moment like that - even though I have no allegiance to the Sox or have never seen Frank play in person - with other Auburn people was a good feeling.

Saturday was the official start of the college football season, so I trekked up to Wrigleyville to watch Auburn's first game with the group of War Eagle fans.  I had been looking forward to this for a couple of weeks and was excited to experience the game in a new way - far from Alabama and in a room filled entirely with people as enthused as myself.  My usual gameday experience is either at home watching with Seth or by myself, or at a bar with a mixture of supporters of Auburn, Alabama, Florida, Tennessee, and other schools from across the country.  Either way, I could enjoy the game (or not) while keeping an eye on other teams and sharing the excitement (or disappointment) with others, whether in person or by phone/text.

Saturday's game was indeed a different experience, and, to be honest, a little disappointing.  It was very crowded and loud, and listening to the game commentary was difficult.  Most people were focused on the game, as was evidenced by the cheers or groans, but I just didn't feel that rush of enthusiasm that I'm used to.  Maybe it was because we're all so far removed from the actuality of Auburn, or maybe because I was with people I barely know.  Maybe it's just that this time of year is intensely exciting in the state of Alabama, and here in Chicago, there's more concern over professional football than college.  Or, just maybe, it's because I would rather be sharing the moment with Seth and Lacy and the other people that I'm used to sharing it with.

I would like to have been at West End Grill, even if I did have to listen to the whoops and taunts of the Bama group.  Or at Mason's hearing Dale go on and on about how Florida will survive without Tebow.  I would like to have shared thoughts with my son on the new qb for Auburn, and how good it is to see Etheridge back in the secondary, and how well the offensive line played, even if the defense had some holes.

I would like to see SEC teams' banners on houses and flags on cars and even the Bama fans eternally decked head-to-toe in crimson everywhere they go.  Being with fans in Chicago is better than not, but there's just nothing like football in Alabama, or in the South.  Regardless of the number of Ohio State, Notre Dame, Northwestern, Illinois and Purdue fans here, there's just not that intense rivalry and camaraderie you find at home.  I'll make it through the season, but I'll be happy to catch at least a couple of games this Fall in the bosom of the SEC faithful - if only when I travel to Alabama.